Are you married? Married for 5, 10, 20 or more years? Most of us have experienced, or at least, witnessed a long-term marriage in their lifetime. Have you ever asked yourself, how did they do it or what is the secret to a long-term marriage? Well, in my experience and what I’ve witnessed is that couples and relationships evolve into a marriage based on traditional values, believing that the person is the one they want to be with for the rest their life. I’ve seen very happy marriages and unhappy marriages, and for some reason unhappy marriages stay together despite how unhappy they are. What is the true meaning of staying in an unhappy marriage? People say, “well I love him or her”, “we have kids together” or my favorite one, “my parents and their parents got a divorce and I want to stop the divorce cycle”. To be honest these are all relevant excuses to stay in an unhappy marriage, but before I go any further, if a marriage is happy, meaning both parties are fulfilled in the relationship, then Yay that’s a joined couple divined to be! But, if later on in the marriage, as people do eventually come to their persona, you feel like your soul is being sucked right out of you trying to blend and mix with an energy totally different from yours, makes a intense challenge. Now for some of us we like a good challenge, depending on how challenging it is or if it is even a challenge, it might just be a life block; feeling of being repressed from being YOU! Now, I’m not against marriage, but I am against a one sided marriage, and if your reading this, and in a one sided marriage you know what I mean. Marriage can be a wonderful thing or it can be the death of you, depending on how one sided it is. Personally, I believe in equality, and if the marriage is unequal, and you’re struggling mentally, spiritually and possibly physically, then I believe you could be subconsciously stuck in a seduced state of traditional lineage marriage (something I made up, but it fits for this reading).
True Love or Self Resistance
In our society, marriage is viewed as the foundation and fundamental building block of human civilization; the institution of marriage can have a remarkable impact on individuals and society, if the marriage is healthy. Research has confirmed that divorce rates are high in this day in time, the reason being, in my opinion, traditional lineage marriage. Individuals put up with their significant other for reasons outside of themselves; personally, society has forced us to marry, individuals don’t really think of the outcome or know who they are really connecting their loving energy with, you usually don’t find out until later in the marriage. A healthy marriage can be vital to human civilization; But, a life draining and unequal marriage can be detrimental to an individual or the family as a whole, therefore, affecting generation after generation, causing a negative domino effect on the growing society. Marriage is an human invention, basically, to create population control as well as governmental gain — that supposedly saves us U.S. tax payers money, which may be true to some extent and I’m not saying marriage is an unpleasant invention. Some of us are just confused on true love. Individuals that suffer in a relationship and believe they have to except an unequal, soul draining marriage, psyched by the traditional way of marriage, puts themselves in a lower vibration to harness the negative energy of the significant other. In my experience, this puts the family at risk of a negative vibe, creating more problems with the kids social lives and possibly mental confusion in the kids relationships when they become adults. Personally, I believe traditional marriage can be viewed as a great cause, but also has its negative aspects; you can be taken advantage of, and if you feel you are being treated unequal in a marriage, ask yourself, why are you in the marriage, really? Is it because of something or someone outside of yourself, that you are putting before yourself and health? I get that kids are involved and other people do matter, but YOU also matter and in my experience, when freed from a negative and chaotic marriage its proven to me to be beneficial for all involved; the kids will eventually grow to understand the reason behind a divorce or separation. Kids are people too and eventually become adults in their own lives and if your still married to the same individual then your stuck in this low vibration, that’s been forced upon you because of your traditional way of thinking, “I have to make this work”. Kids will always be your kids and you can still be in their lives; kids feel true love and know when its real. Love is sweet, given or returned; but what is love, if you don’t love yourself enough to make a positive change. You have to love self in order to share a loving life with somebody else. Listen to your intuition and follow true LOVE. Don’t let traditional lineage marriage determine your life. Take a stance for true love and that’s loving thyself and then you’ll see love form a true love wealth. Love is supposed to go both ways and I understand happy marriages can have a positive impact on society, but, I also understand a unhappy marriage can also have a negative impact on society. Personally, I think its about a wise choice of love; a marriage can drain you and leave you feeling caged in in so many ways, examine yourself and your life, determine if its worth you holding on to a marriage that is keeping you tied to a negative energy. I say this with love to all parties involved in a marriage. I know marriage is work and a growing process, but it don’t have to be forced or perceived as a must. Each individual life is valuable, and sometimes we make substandard choices; life is about growing, moving onward, not staying stagnate or living a mundane life. We can’t reach our full potential if we’re being repressed; We have to liberate ourselves and listen to ourselves and know when enough is enough; life is meant to be an experience and blossoms into a bliss, not a permanent struggle, being drained by someone else. So, yes, experience true love, by loving yourself and then you’ll know when to, and if you really love somebody else. I hope this helps someone make a positive life changing decision. I’ve witnessed unhappy marriages stay together for years, decades, only to bring pain and an unhealthy living. Divine love is true love, true love is knowing love and knowing love is loving thyself in order to truly love someone else.
